But I love her
A friend comes over with extreme excitement. “Hey hey hey! I’m so much in love with this girl!” I think to myself… oh boy… I know how he can get so excited about everything. I ask him “How long have you known her?” “I dunno… does that really matter? I really like her!” I ask him, “Do you know her last name?” “I dunno… that can come later!”
I told him to sit down for a second. “Listen… know your feelings before you venture to far.” What I am going to try for him won’t work for everyone or many people, but maybe at least give him some incite. “Close your eyes. Relax and take some deep breathes. Think about her.” I give a few moments to have him think. “Now tell me what do you see?” His response is what I have expected. “I see her long sexy legs and I move up through her curves and see her smile with her long blond hair!” He then opens his eyes with a big smile. He asks, “So what was that all about?” I tell him what he needs to hear. “What you just described and having that cheesy grin sounds more like lust to me. You gave one sentence and that was it. Describing someone you love should be so much more. Let me give this a go and I will tell you what I see when I think of my wife when I knew I was in love with her.” I close my eyes. I relax. I almost go into a trance. I let my world go and let her world enter. I start to talk. “I… I don’t see anything when I’m thinking about her right now.” I know my friend has a blank face hearing this. “I can’t see anything. My heart is beating so hard my thoughts can even begin to grow. They start then it’s the next intense thump keeps the moment clear and free. My heart has never felt this power before and it’s showing me “Hey this is serious!”. Wait I’m not done. Now my heart is allowing more to enter my mind. I still can’t see anything… I feel something… I feel this warm glow.. almost like this dark image is bright as can be. Maybe it’s not darkness that I see, but such a bright warm glow that I can’t see… because I don’t need to see for my answer. I hear laughter… It’s hers. And it’s real. I can only laugh with her. The times we have are so surreal and our laughs take us to faraway places.” I open my eyes and I look right next to me. “She’s right here. She doesn’t even have to be here to know she’s here.” My eyes become glossed over my smile so light and true. “When I don’t need to see her with my eyes closed and when I can see her when she’s not here with my eyes open… That’s how I know I love her.”
(I have seen many times people get seriously involved way to fast. I have been there myself a few times. And it does end in hurt. From working at the jewelry store I have seen many men come in young and old be all excited and end up buying an engagement ring. And I have seen many of them come back in to return it. A coworker and I were working with a couple and the guy was very excited and the girl.. just was lacking much emotion… she held a secret she couldn’t tell him… Yes he ended up getting a ring and not a cheap one. I want to say it was $4-5k. A few weeks later the ring came back. The girl was seeing someone else. Love is very powerful in good and bad ways. Just don’t let love hit you in a bad way.)
I told him to sit down for a second. “Listen… know your feelings before you venture to far.” What I am going to try for him won’t work for everyone or many people, but maybe at least give him some incite. “Close your eyes. Relax and take some deep breathes. Think about her.” I give a few moments to have him think. “Now tell me what do you see?” His response is what I have expected. “I see her long sexy legs and I move up through her curves and see her smile with her long blond hair!” He then opens his eyes with a big smile. He asks, “So what was that all about?” I tell him what he needs to hear. “What you just described and having that cheesy grin sounds more like lust to me. You gave one sentence and that was it. Describing someone you love should be so much more. Let me give this a go and I will tell you what I see when I think of my wife when I knew I was in love with her.” I close my eyes. I relax. I almost go into a trance. I let my world go and let her world enter. I start to talk. “I… I don’t see anything when I’m thinking about her right now.” I know my friend has a blank face hearing this. “I can’t see anything. My heart is beating so hard my thoughts can even begin to grow. They start then it’s the next intense thump keeps the moment clear and free. My heart has never felt this power before and it’s showing me “Hey this is serious!”. Wait I’m not done. Now my heart is allowing more to enter my mind. I still can’t see anything… I feel something… I feel this warm glow.. almost like this dark image is bright as can be. Maybe it’s not darkness that I see, but such a bright warm glow that I can’t see… because I don’t need to see for my answer. I hear laughter… It’s hers. And it’s real. I can only laugh with her. The times we have are so surreal and our laughs take us to faraway places.” I open my eyes and I look right next to me. “She’s right here. She doesn’t even have to be here to know she’s here.” My eyes become glossed over my smile so light and true. “When I don’t need to see her with my eyes closed and when I can see her when she’s not here with my eyes open… That’s how I know I love her.”
(I have seen many times people get seriously involved way to fast. I have been there myself a few times. And it does end in hurt. From working at the jewelry store I have seen many men come in young and old be all excited and end up buying an engagement ring. And I have seen many of them come back in to return it. A coworker and I were working with a couple and the guy was very excited and the girl.. just was lacking much emotion… she held a secret she couldn’t tell him… Yes he ended up getting a ring and not a cheap one. I want to say it was $4-5k. A few weeks later the ring came back. The girl was seeing someone else. Love is very powerful in good and bad ways. Just don’t let love hit you in a bad way.)
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